Why do I start out strong and motivated and then slowly fall flat!? This is one thing I’ve noticed in my own life, but also in the lives of the clients I work with.
As someone with ADHD & similar things, you thrive off dopamine which means you also thrive off things you love to do. You get super excited about something until the dopamine wears off. This coincides with forming habits too.
It’s incredibly difficult to form habits since it takes a minimum of 21 days to form a habit. Routines can start out strong and then fall flat because it’s boring or it’s not giving you what you had desired so you just exit stage right.
This leaves you in potential chaos with next to no routines, less than worthy feelings, and a spiral once again.
I used to beat myself up for this ALL THE TIME! However, that doesn’t get you anywhere. Now I look at things in a different light. What do I not like about this thing I’m trying to do? What am I struggling with?
That brings me to point number 2 - what are you struggling to do!? Unless you receive dopamine from figuring things out ALL THE TIME, this may be a road block too, making things even more frustrating.
So put on your thinking and problem solving hats and let’s get started!
Ask yourself these questions when you find yourself wanting to exit stage right again…
1. What don’t I like about this process?
2. What am I struggling to do in this process?
3. Do I feel alone in this process?
4. Do I need someone to bounce ideas off of?
5. Do I need to learn parts of the process?
Depending on your answers, you may need to enlist someone to help you stay working on the process until it’s a habit or the routine has structure. Not sure where to begin? Let’s have a coffee chat! I don’t want you staying stuck in this cycle! You have big plans for your life. Let’s remove the obstacles one step at a time. Schedule your coffee chat HERE.